Thursday, May 17, 2012

Adoption IS LOVE

For Just $15 this shirt can be yours.  
ALL profits go to saving a life.

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Teamwork Tuesday:Kyle

Today's Teamwork Tuesday Child is Kyle.  Kyle is Region 2 in Russia, right now this region is closed to parents in the USA BUT Canadian parents are welcome to adopt from this region.  Isn't he just adorable?

From RR site

"Boy, born November 2006
Eyes: Blue
Hair: Blonde
Character:
Diagnosis: Down syndrome
SIGNIFICANT RISK, PLEASE ADOPT ME SOON!
Kyle is facing the institution.   He has striking blue eyes and bright blonde hair!  Kyle is medically healthy outside of his flat feet and Strabismus.   Please give Kyle a chance to grow up in a loving family of his own!
$3903.50 is available towards the cost of my adoption!"

Monday, May 14, 2012

Millie. Again. Still.

She still needs a home.  She needs a home like yesterday.  It will take a year for the whole process so someone needs to step up today.  Read about her here http://reecesrainbow.org/21839/millie-57-2  can't adopt her? Donate to her HERE

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Kids & choking

Emily is 9, actually, she's almost 10! Even at 9y 11mo Emily puts everything into her mouth, it starts with her tapping her lips or teeth with it and then she may or may not stick the object into her mouth. Has the behavior improved with time? Yes, but, she still puts interesting things in her mouth. SO, we don't leave things that are dangerous around (small magnets, push pins, sewing needles etc.) There are however things I wouldn't think about and the following blog post is one written by a friend of mine, her daughter is still in the hospital and I would very much like to pass on this information about button batteries. When I first heard about Kellsey, the battery and the damage that it has done I was shocked and scared all at once.

There is one other choking hazard I would like to mention, dryer sheets. Another friend had a daughter that swallowed a dryer sheet and it got stuck! Think about the surface of a dryer sheet and you'll see how easily that could happen. Thinking of that episode always makes me panic a little

Saturday, February 25, 2012

Short sighted

This article written by Carla Lohr, points out how people can lump all with disabilities into the same pile. Are there some who are overprotected because they have disabilities? Yes. Do most parents want to see their children do as much as they can on their own? Yes, I think so.

In Miss. Lohr’s article she writes, “In an effort to make life as comfortable as possible, some parents will seek out special schools, groups, or activities catered to their children, so that they will only have to deal with children who share their disability Obviously, no parents want their children to have to deal with feeling different, being left out or being hurt by questions and curious looks. They don't want their children to deal with the frustration of trying to fit in and not always succeeding. They don't want them to get discouraged, and they don't want life to be any more difficult for them than it already is. In theory, this practice seems like the ideal solution. In reality, it can have devastating effects.” In practice the author seems like a wonderful do-gooder. In reality Miss. Lohr is naive and ill-informed.

Without organizations like Special Olympics and Challenger Sports my daughter wouldn’t be able to participate in team sports. This isn’t something I have made up in my head, this is fact. My daughter goes to a typical public school but she is in a self contained class, we did the general ed thing and it was a nightmare for her. This isn’t my imagination, I’m not trying to be overprotective, I am trying to get the best education I can for her.

I often equate special education today to the woman’s liberation movement. Because women before me fought for their place in the workplace I know have so many options. I can work full-time, part-time, mother’s hours, as needed or not at all.

There isn’t a one size fits all solution for people with disabilities, just as there’s no one size fits all solution for any subset of society.

Thursday, February 23, 2012

365:54

Please note that we were out in a parking lot of a car lot and she was not wearing her seat belt since we were waiting on the guys to get done. SHE DOES always have her belt on when we are driving.

Discriminating against ourselves

Discrimination is ugly. Sometimes discrimination is obvious, purposeful and evil and sometimes discrimination is accidental. My daughter has been the victim of both.

The discrimination that hurts my heart the most is what I am going to call disability on disability discrimination. I bet you’re wondering what that is. In the world of disability only the kids that are at the very top are celebrated. If you look at the National Down syndrome sites, their sites are full of stories that shine lights on kids and adults that are on tv, go to college, exceed in dance classes, write their own books, own their own businesses but kids that for the first time ever was able to walk through the store without having a fit? No, not the kind of spectacular story they are interested in.

Then there’s the “one up club”, this is the most insane “club” you will ever meet. It consists of parents who are constantly looking to one up you, constantly pushing their kid’s achievements down your throat. Oh little sally is in the 4th grade, she’s fully included and doing 5th grade work! Pumpkin is 4 years old and already knows how to balance the family checkbook. I used to drive myself totally crazy wondering what the hell I was doing wrong that my child couldn’t be among typically developing peers in her age group and do the same work they are doing, talk the way they are talking, in short how had these children with developmental delays morphed into typically developing children and mine couldn’t? I looked for pills, potions and scoured Google, I found no magic pill. The truth is that their parents were lying, or rather stretching the truth. Not sure if they meant to or not but by trying to boost their own child, they discriminated against mine. They were saying “our kids may both have the same extra chromosome but clearly, my kid is better than yours”. Was this on purpose? I would like to think NO but I there’s a part of me that says it is.

Let me tell you, fully included does not mean that the kid is doing the same grade work as their peers, fully included often doesn’t even mean that the kids are in the same class all day. The words “fully included” lead you to conjure up images that can make you wonder what you are doing wrong. These kids often go to a resource room for 1:1 help OR they have 1:1 aides in the class OR they are doing 2nd grade work in 8th grade. Don’t allow the words “fully included” scare you into thinking that every other kid is on par with grade level and yours isn’t.

So, then we turn to the Autism world, surely this is more the “home” we’ve been looking for, but, most of the activities are for kids with mild delays or Asperger’s syndrome. UGH same deal , different diagnosis.

My child is nonverbal, this leads to her being harshly judged by everyone, this has lead to behaviors that have alienated us because people look at my kid and think “oh my, she’s not fit for our company” I have actually had friends bless their life after looking at how she has behaved and her behavior is directly related to her being nonverbal because she is smart, but she gets frustrated by a lack of communication. Try it someday, go through the whole day without talking OH and her fine motor skills are awful so she can’t write SO no writing to get your point across, TRY IT, I promise you, you will have a whole new respect for people that have to communicate without the spoken or written word.

It has taken me a long time to understand that I need to get all those people out of my head; they are the ones that can’t see the beauty in my daughter’s achievements. What comes so easily for most children can be years in the making for my girl but, then, you turn around and with the help of technology there she is putting a sentence together “I want to watch tv, I want to watch Barney” and in your entire life you have never been so happy, so grateful so completely in awe. You learn quite quickly not to take the world for granted.

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

CRASH 365:52&53

My son's car was hit while parked :( turns out that it was totaled. It took up two days of our life. he's quite upset but as I said to him life is full of ups and downs. We will get another car and things will move forward.